I’m writing this on Mother’s Day.  It does not escape me that many mothers and adult children are lonely today, longing for a relationship they wish was different.  Many of my caregivers and patients I speak to are also lonely.

The US Surgeon General has compared the damage of smoking 15 cigarettes a day to that of living a lonely life, both of which significantly reduce life spans. Loneliness has been linked to depression, suicide, heart disease and dementia.

Nearly half of Americans report feeling lonely, especially after recovering from the isolation and loss during COVID.  Studies have shown that just 15 minutes a day can help combat this. 

Here are some ideas:

Who can you reach out to and let them know you are thinking of them?  Can you drop someone a note or email or call and leave a friendly message?  Is there a friend or neighbor you can offer to grocery shop for? 

When you do get together with someone, really focus on them, and set down all devices. Smile at a stranger and ask how they really are and listen. Remember to help others, because in doing so it reminds you that you are valuable. Loneliness can chip away at our self-worth and when we are of service we can turn that around.

Chances are half of those you encounter this week are experiencing some loneliness. You may be as well. Offer some kindness today in a way that works for you.  These ideas are small steps.  Choose one that works for you.