What you ask? You may be thinking…I have to do things every day that I do not want to do.

Do you really? What do you HAVE to do? There are always options, you may not like them or choose them, and there are options.

My mother-in-law used to remind me when I said I had to pay the bills that I “GOT” to pay them.  This reminded me I was grateful I had electricity, a home and internet I got to pay for.

We do not have to do anything we do not want to do. 

I heard a story on a podcast this morning (Call Your Girlfriend).  One of the hosts said she had asked a friend to do something social and the friend said no.

She then asked why said friend could not do the activity.  She was expecting an answer like she needed to go on errands, take care of her mom, that she was already booked or a white lie to uphold the social contract many of us live in. Instead the friend said, “Because I do not want to.  I don’t do things I don’t want to do.” 

This caused a “brain explosion” from the asker.  The answer was not given antagonistically or with an apology – just a matter of fact response.

Does this sound possible for you or unimaginable?  

You caregivers you may be thinking: I have to make three meals a day or he won’t eat, I have to do his laundry, I have to get the meds from the pharmacy and on and on.  

Do you really have to? There are other options than you cooking three meals a day, other choices for laundry (wearing dirty clothes) and choices for getting meds in the home.

Take a moment and a breath and think about what you really “have” to do, want to do, or get to do today.

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