| Many of you tell me you just want a life – I know, I was there too.
A client told me they just wanted to sleep through the night. When I was caring for my spouse, I thought I had to be there the whole time, know everything, do everything – and, I was the only one who could.
That was a lie I told myself.
I did not have to be there. I chose to be there, and I did not always choose from a place of kindness. That is important. We tell ourselves we “have” to do this, but you don’t. You can walk away. You may think, “No I can’t.” You could, but you may not choose to – so instead you stay, sometimes despite a big cost to yourself.
Think about why you are there. Why are you really showing up every day? How do you want to show up? Once you get clear on your WHY, then you can work on how to drop the anger and resentment many of you feel.
Why do you take care of your loved one? Do you truly believe you have a choice?
There were many days I wanted to walk away. I didn’t always stay for the right reason, and that created resentment. Eventually I decided I wanted to help my spouse who was temporarily disabled because it was better for my whole family, which meant it was better for me at the time. I just had to wrap my head around why I was doing it. Guilt? Obligation? No other choice? Or was it from love, compassion, or from a place of service?
We all have our reasons why we show up to take care of a loved one. Look at your WHY. It may work for you, or you may want to shift it a bit.
I always encourage my clients to like or at least be okay with the reasons they are making the choices they are. If you would like help with this or anything else, reach out for a free 20- minute consultation.
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